Love Trumps Hate, but that’s not what we’re doing.

Hate does not compel, it consumes.

I feel it every time I pass a ‘Trump’ bumper sticker on a car or one of those red hats walk by. It’s actually physical. I feel my stomach knot up. My fists clench. My face flush red with blood.

How can I possibly find common ground with these people?

Every ten minutes it seems that my phone buzzes with a new headline from our President. Every time I jump on Facebook my feed is brimming with stories. The infamous “wall”, EPA, Climate Change (or the lack thereof), gag orders, trade crisis, lack of jobs, religious rights (or their over extension), women’s and LGBT rights (also, or the lack thereof)… We have officially arrived in information, over saturation hell.

Or, maybe it’s just hell.

I am beside myself. I am distressed and I find myself asking the real and honest question that many of us minority, human rights, global thinkers do… What the fuck do I do?

The hope and change that the last 8 years have brought seem to be falling away in a matter of days. Some things are true, some are rumors and all of them could occupy ones entire day by fact checking which is which. But, it seems even the true, not sensationalized news is not good news.

If you Google just how bad it is, I beg you – sit down with a bottle of wine first. (The news is for you, the wine is for me in spirit #sober).

It is so tempting to get behind my keyboard and start lashing out at anyone who voted for President Trump… But, that’s not going to help. My next inclination is to hide. But, that’s really not going to help as the world will keep spinning, news stories keep churning and assault on things I value will continue regardless of if I close my eyes or not.

So I cannot stomach Trumpism (Trump and his ideals #buzzword2017), but I cannot sit by and do nothing. I must do something…

Early on I latched onto the “Love Trumps Hate” mantra. How poetic and true! But, in the recent days I have not seen it. Anywhere. Sure, we show love for our side of the argument. For our clique. But, when it comes to dealing with the other side, we’re skipping taking the gloves off and going right to nuclear warfare.


I have done it myself.

So how, when I’m seeing the bumper stickers, the hats, my phone won’t stop buzzing and it seems like everything we care about is going up in flames, am I supposed to find the sense of calm to constructively participate?

Well, I don’t know yet. So I am imposing the oldest and noblest of traditions on myself – if you don’t have something [constructive] to say, don’t say it all.

If you’re going to coin the phrase”Love Trumps Hate”, you’d better be the embodiment of love. Otherwise we will continue to push each other further to one side or another.

I love passion. But don’t let it get the best of you.


Is football pro LGBT?

Football is not pro LGBT. They’re not anti-LGBT either. So where does that put the sport? Firmly on the fence.

Just google “gay football” and see what you get. A plethora of articles that aren’t exactly a ringing endorsement for the LGBT community.

Our sport is at an interesting crossroads. We’re slowly bleeding to death. More and more youth athletes are opting to play other sports.

Concussions, broken bones, torn ligaments, long term health side effects… There are lots of reasons why football is a bad idea. So why play it? Because we love it.

Amidst the talk of the lowest television ratings from the NFL in recent memory, I find myself wondering what the future holds for our sport. The NFL is spending lots of money on trying to make the sport safer and more attractive to a newly informed and largely anti-football public.  Parents don’t want their kids playing such a dangerous game.

Football used to sell itself. Now, we’re having to sell it. On top of all of the other considerations, being gay certainly gives one even more pause to participate. So can football continue to sit on the fence in the LGBT movement? I don’t think so.

But, there are people like Dr. Michael Brown, who think that the NFL has gone too far and call for players to stand up to the league:

“Don’t let yourselves be used as pawns for gay bullies and their allies. Send a message to the league with respect and honor, making it clear that the NFL has crossed the line one too many times and that you, as a person of faith and morality, will not be a part of it.”

In reading his article I struggle to find the evidence that the NFL is promoting anything LGBT. If anything, the run-ins that the NFL has had with LGBT issues has shown how undecided they are.


It’s time to get decided. The LGBT community is big and only getting bigger. For all the issues that football has right now we cannot afford to ostracize the gay community.

Get off the fence. Go gay.